3. Here is what a failing attitude looks like: I am so depressed he hasnt called me my life revolves around him blah, blah, blah.. I never told him this. We were together 5 years with a 9 month break at the beginning. The call ended well and he texted a few hours later saying he really enjoyed speaking and thanked me for being so understanding. What we need to do is to break this undesirable association. If you were to have the attitude that I described above, the entitlement attitude, then the chances are high that nothing will get done. Sometimes when a girl messages me first I think to myself. If your ex chose to do so, let her. I really dont want her to forget about me and actually would like her to come crawling back. While you are not contacting your ex, they are forced and allowed to experience the true consequences of their decision to break up with you. Let him decide if he wants to be with you. Day 46 NC and deleted me on WhatsApp. Can Breaking Up Strengthen A Relationship? Hey Assunta I am sorry but that is only something you can decide. He got angry and broke up with me. We werent arguing much and I havent been able to understand his reasoning behind it. I mean, yeah, I do love her. In fact, I recently filmed a video about just that. youll need to understand the process we teach) so if you dont have that foundation I highly recommend you check out my best selling program to get it. Maybe they're feeling a little salty about how well. Assuming that your guy has followed the progression I outlined above and is holding resentment towards you for the breakup that occurred you can probably expect the following things to be going on in his mind: You can always expect a little bit of stubbornness to be involved when it comes to someone using silence as revenge. Before I say anything else I just want to throw that out there. She would concentrate more on the things she wanted to do. Hence I feel that no-contact is more successful at helping the dumpee heal, but is less successful at helping the dumpee get the dumper back. This internal battle between his heart and his pride will rage on for days. Hi Alice, I think you have been clear with what you want from him and he has said he is not ready for that commitment yet. And when she does, b/c she will, you will need to be a different kind a man. You cried at the top of your lungs until they paid attention to you. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. Obviously she was very upset about the whole not being contacted situation. Our situation took a toll on it because we cant see each other a lot because of the pandemic and she doesnt have freedom coz shes assisting her cousin for his online class except weekends and also for some restrictions from her aunt. To make your ex boyfriend miss you right? Unfortunately, most women dont realize that fact. In this. I told him that I felt hurt and I did not wanted to make things worse between us, so when ready I would have kept in touch. Very confused! He hasnt texted me though, and I want to get him back. I want you to close your eyes and imagine something with me for a moment. Firstly, the no contact rule is only step one in the process. Another thing is that i have also been dealing with so much anxiety and she caused me this. Seriously, I am so used to messaging girls (who I am romantically interested in) first that it is kind of annoying to me to keep doing it. He might wait for a while after the longest period has been exceeded. In all, there are 3 legitimate reasons that come to mind. Take care not to over-analyze the situation. Lets say that you are using the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. It can be entirely possible that the no contact rule was working you just have no idea because he has an amazing poker face. My boyfriend ended our 5 and a half year relationship by saying he wasnt happy. Female psychology after a breakup has shown that women tend to have a more intense emotional response after a breakup when compared to men. Seriously, they will sit around and cry because he didn't call or text. Im 4 months out from a 7-year break-up, and the past few months we hooked-up, hung out, had fun, and fought for each other here and there. She stopped for a while and started to gave time for me. Well, what we know so far is that they feel entitled to a response. Did he even care?. Should You Go No Contact With Your Situationship? He blocked me and It took about 3 weeks before i contacted him and we started talking. "I'm in shock! but I will appreciate your opinion about my story. Then the following week msgs as normal and video calls told me she missed me and she told me she had removed me from Instagram as she had seen some comments on previous posts that made her feel insecure so she had to do that for now for herself, I said OK if thats what you feel you need to do thats OK I dont know what she thinks she saw though because I dont have anything there to make her feel that way I wouldnt ever go behind her back either Ive never been that way in a relationship. I think too many women are conditioned by society to think that making the first move on a guy is wrong. Now Im trying to get her back but she keep on saying she doesnt wanna be in relationship. While your expectations have been managed your only human and you cant help but wonder what is going on in his mind. Yes, if he does contact you that means deep down there is a part of him that misses you. She got a lot of things going on with her life and she sometimes put me the very least of her priorities. I done so much for her in the last 2 and half months helped her with things, advice on stuff, picked her daughter up with her and thats fine I done it because I like her I expect nothing in return for good deeds but its made me feel like cant she see i made one silly mistake I was frustrated people have arguments in relationships you learn about each other in a way from these type of things!! It's All About Getting Control To Deal With Your Ex This is where No Contact is important. You reach out but you do not mention that he deleted you. Love your honesty, made me really think about my actions and his. My case is i met a guy and we were in ldr for 1 and half year..and during that time he cheat on me multiple timeshe lied about his name age etche older than me.he is like in 40sIm in my early 20she didnt tell me i found it by myself and i forgave him for all thatand still loved him like beforebut our relationship was still going no where due to he being not available and always busy later found he was flirting other girls and we broke uphe said he loved me but at 1 point i was too much.Im naggingannoyingclingy person.after this break up i was with someone else like rebound but after he contact me 3 days after break up i went back to him but he stayed same we broke up and then 1 week later he came again but we fought and 1 hour later he come said he have a new girl and he is currently with her now.he and me dont talk.and he looks happy with her.was it my fault our relationship didnt work? That's why he's putting emphasis on texting. The secret subtext behind every happy birthday text from an ex is: Look at me, I'm so ~over it~ that I can wish you a "happy" day and it's totally fine! He may discover what he actually was experiencing before when he said he was "tired of you," was just the normal up and down of relationship. Required fields are marked *. One way to do it is through text messaging. , This may work in some situations but 8 have serious doubts.and I know for sure it killed my relationship.i kicked my commonlaw girlfriend out for not communicatingbreaking all our relationship rules and boundaries by planning to move out behind my back.qhen I called her on it she broke down into name calling and lies..so I locked her out violence was a.step away and two kids were in the house..i was not going to allow that.after i locked her out she no contact melol big mistake.you do not ever no contact someone you love this will destroy trust and shows a COMPLETE lack of respect to the person you love anyone who does this to me will never see me again period.i filed we are now in court contact through lawyers only.dont try the no contact with a real man its internet bs. He wanted to meet and said that he understood that he loves me but is not ready to propose. The point I am trying to make here is that the more attached you are to someone the greater the chances that them ignoring you will affect you. I called after to ask for a break because things can get better once we are presencial again, which he answered yes to. A few months ago I got a message from a woman whose ex hadnt contacted her during her no contact period. Thats when they improve their perceptions of their exes and oftentimes even interact with them. Do you remember what I said the main purpose of the no contact rule was? They Are Obsessed With You - Why My Ex Blocked Me: If someone has blocked you and they have done so by going out of their way, then you should be amazed because they are not ignoring you; they are obsessed with you. The greater the love the greater the loss. While it is always important to find that delicate balance between logic and emotions it is also important to remember that the mere fact that your ex is trying to get back at you through the use of his silence means he is feeling emotions. How long do you recommend I do no contact before reaching out? Once you've gotten your ex to refriend you, go ahead and ask her to meet up with you. Im in not conact rule right now, respecting her decition and trying to heal my self as well. Well, if the two of you just have this never ending no contact battle with one another then nothing is going to happen that could help you two reunite. I was at a friends party and her sister put on their stories of them drinking and she looks so happy, is she over me? While I know it is a lot to read if you did take the plunge and read through it all you will have noticed that the overall ex recovery process hinges on YOU making the first move (which I plan on going into much greater detail later.). Now, there are a number of reasons an ex might choose to unfollow you. Be flawlessly polite and kind with all contact, but NEVER beg for your ex back. I have tried to walk at his speed, as it is fine for me. Now, if your relationship wasnt that bad, your relationship probably didnt need to end, but it still did. Originally, I thought it would be fun to write a massive program on how to get your ex boyfriend back and see what happened. Xo. They prevent you from moving on. But hey, I was young and I didnt know how to handle my emotions. He doesnt speak until today. I would suggest that you spend some time working on yourself, spend time with your friends and family especially when he does get back. I am happy to advise on either path that you choose, but you need to think if this is a person who is worth your time and effort. The problem with stubborn men is that they wont want to communicate. Its been a week, probably not long enough. I believe this is why he has not texted? 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